The process of thinking, one could say, is divided into
three time frames: Past- Present and Future.
In the present time when something occurs we pause and
answer three specific questions to ourselves in sequence:
1)
What is happening?
2)
What does it mean?
3)
What should I do about it?
Different people give different meanings to the same
occurrence. People process the events based on their emotions, past experiences
(good or bad) and other influences.
When we think about a past event, we refer to the same set
of questions but use a comparable frame of mind:
1) What I thought happened?
2) What did it mean then? (The meaning I gave it)
3) What did I do about it? (Based on my interpretations)
And then we compare it to:
1) What really happened? (Based on new evidence)
2) What was the real meaning? (Based on better
understanding)
3) What could we have done better about it?
(In comparison to what I did and the result I got vs what I
should’ve gotten if I processed the information more accurately)
The gap between both serves as a way to give us doubt about
our abilities to understand and act or serves as a reinforcement that builds
confidence on how intelligence and success in choosing the right course of
action.
When we think about the future or plan for it we also refer
to the same questions but we pull on our past experiences to be more effective:
1)
What could or should happen?
2)
What would that mean? (Based on a possible
outcomes)
3)
What could I do now to make it happen and/or
what should I do to prevent it from happening
The idea however is not only to process the data accurately
but to give it the right meaning so as to not have it affect us in the future negatively
since we desperately look for meanings in every single thing that happens
around us.
With all what I just described above, I want you to just
imagine how the world seems so overwhelming to a child who barely can define words,
let alone understand the concepts of what is happening around him or her to
process a few possible impact scenarios and the consequences of each on their
weak life that is so dependent on others.
Now think also of almost the same process happening to an
elderly or a sick person whose mental faculties have slowed down due to age
and/or sickness or have been damaged due to a physical accident or an emotional
incident.
Finally think of those who look and behave like normal
people but they actually find it hard to communicate with others because “how
we think” is a bit overwhelming to them.
They prefer to interact with machines or innate subjects,
where the communication is in form of direct and conscious command: From the
basics of activities such as turning on the lights to more complex commands
like programming computer software and the like.
The functions require much less human effort and interaction
and that’s their comfort zone. It gets overwhelming for them to try to
communicate with other human beings where there a lot more to process,
understands and there are actual and there is constant interaction and feedback
to consider and adjust to.
For instance when we communicate with other human being we
must observe their facial expressions, emotional reactions, voice intonations,
body language and so on.
This process could be overwhelming for those introverts and
the impact is they usually do not do well in life, or in investments.
They fit perfectly however in a large business organization where
they place them in a box to do specific functions that evolve in a pace they
can keep up with.
Knowing your own natural talent, inclinations and comfort
zone will help you focus on developing and nurturing your skills more
powerfully. The most important thing is to make a choice to reach for your
maximum potential.
Then know others by recognizing their God given talent, so
you can place them in positions where they can build and nurture the skills set
that is aligned with their natural abilities. But make sure they have made the
decision to constantly improve. Otherwise you will waste your time and
frustrate your self and others.
It all starts with the mind and how we think so we can be,
do and have what we deserve and are willing to work smart and hard towards.
Wishing you a clearer understanding of life and better
living based on self-analysis and the accurate evaluation of the world around
you.
Sincerely,
Cherif Medawar
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